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rant about lesbianism 

though I'm certainly one to talk. I have a cis (albeit gender-non-conforming) partner. but she's pan.

which brings me to: the one exception I see with any regularity is that bi and pan cis folks are willing to date trans people

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rant about lesbianism 

as I'm out longer I keep seeing more and more reasons why T4T is so prevalent. cis people just refuse to date trans people

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rant about lesbianism 

I'm not going to say it's *impossible* for cis lesbians to be trans allies or nonbinary allies, but it sure fucking feels that way

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rant about lesbianism 

secondly, while I have a preference for women (and enbies!) there are some men out there I find attractive (moreover, gender is bullshit in the first place, there's hot people of all genders). this disqualifies me from being a lesbian by most counts. I did feel attracted to the "bi lesbian" identity to signify that I vibe with lesbian culture and history, but it has largely been torn apart by the lesbian community for the implication that a lesbian could date a man.

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rant about lesbianism 

a good thread by @stella which I largely agree with on why genital preference is bullshit

girlcock.club/@stella/10548871

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rant about lesbianism 

I'm nonbinary and don't think of myself as a woman. Because I'm also AMAB, as a consequence I feel entirely unwelcome in lesbian spaces. I'm not a woman, so by elimination I must be a man. Neither do I intend to get bottom surgery, giving cis lesbians the excuse to refuse to date me or other folks like me (or even pre/non-op binary trans women, for that matter) by hiding behind "genital preference"

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rant about lesbianism 

first of all, I, to the best of my current knowledge, am nonbinary, trans, and AMAB. the cis lesbian community has issues with all three of those identities, especially in combination. trans women are accepted into the lesbian community, by my perception, not because cis lesbians think of trans lesbians as women, but because cis lesbians know that it's not socially acceptable to deny trans lesbians entrance. trans lesbians are treated as second class.

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rant about lesbianism 

I used to consider myself a lesbian. I don't, anymore, for a few reasons.

I don't have a "given name", I have a *taken* name. I stole it. I dare you to make me give it back

angst about queerness 

I'm some freak who can't even be queer right

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angst about queerness 

I'm not nonbinary. I must be faking it for attention. look at all those other nonbinary people out there. they don't look like me. I'm too queer and not queer enough.

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angst about queerness 

ughhh personal growth is hard I don't wanna. I want to be ok.

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angst about queerness 

is this the hormones. am I having a bad time emotionally because it's getting close to the end of the week and my hormones are running low?

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angst about queerness 

I go on for months thinking I'm a whole person and then one bad night I discover new ways in which I'm utterly broken

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angst about queerness 

am I united with the queer community in the lack of belonging? or is that a contradiction?

does the abstract concept of belonging matter to me because it's intrinsically important or because society told me it is?

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angst about queerness 

if nowhere is home, does that mean everywhere is home?

what does home even mean?

at this point is it more about home or the search itself?

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angst about queerness 

I don't fit in with mainstream queer culture. I don't like the same music, I don't wear the same clothes, I don't speak the same slang. I'm wrong. I'm a weirdo who doesn't even fit in with the other weird folk.

these are high school-level social problems. why do I even care.

ooh boy I'm back on playing Dwarf Fortress again

coming out as trans so hard that you make your friends question their genders

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